The Menstrual Cycle


Menstruation is the monthly shedding of the lining of a women’s uterus (more commonly known as the womb). Menstruation is also known by the terms menses, menstrual period, or period. The menstrual blood—which is partly blood and partly tissue from the inside of the uterus—flows from the uterus through the cervix and out of the body through the vagina.

What is a normal menstrual cycle?

The menstrual cycle is a term used to describe the sequence of events that occur within a women’s body as it prepares for the possibility of pregnancy each month. A menstrual cycle is considered to begin on the first day of a period. The average cycle is 28 days long; however, a cycle can range in length from 21 days to about 35 days.

The steps in the menstrual cycle are triggered by the rise and fall of certain chemicals in the body called hormones. The pituitary gland in the brain and the ovaries in the female reproductive tract manufacture and release certain hormones at certain times during the menstrual cycle that cause the organs of the reproductive tract to respond in certain ways. The specific events that occur during the menstrual cycle can be described as follows:

  • The menses phase —this phase, which typically lasts from day 1 to day 5, is the time when the lining of the uterus is actually shed out through the vagina if pregnancy has not occurred. Most women bleed for 3 to 5 days, but a period lasting only 2 days to as many as 7 days is still considered normal.
  • The follicular phase —this phase typically takes place from days 6 to 14. During this time, the level of the hormone estrogen rises, which causes the lining of the uterus (called the endometrium) to grow and thicken. In addition, another hormone—follicle-stimulating hormone—causes follicles in the ovaries to grow. During days 10 to 14, only one of the developing follicles will form a fully mature egg (ovum).
  • Ovulation —this phase occurs roughly at about day 14 in a 28-day menstrual cycle. A sudden increase in another hormone—luteinizing hormone—causes the ovary to release its egg. This event is called ovulation.
  • The luteal phase —this phase lasts from about day 15 to day 28. After the egg is released from the ovary it begins to travel through the fallopian tubes to the uterus. The level of the hormone progesterone rises to help prepare the uterine lining for pregnancy. If the egg becomes fertilized by a sperm and attaches itself to the uterine wall, the woman becomes pregnant. If pregnancy does not occur, estrogen and progesterone levels drop and the thickened lining of the uterus is shed during the menstrual period.

At what age does menstruation typically begin?

Girls start menstruating at the average age of 12. However, girls can begin menstruating as early as 8 years of age or as late as 16 years of age. Women stop menstruating at menopause, which occurs at about the age of 50. At menopause, a woman stops producing eggs (stops ovulating) and can no longer become pregnant, the body stops preparing the uterus for a possibly pregnancy, and the monthly menses stops.

What are some of the symptoms of a normal menstruation?

  • Moodiness
  • Trouble sleeping
  • Food cravings
  • Development of cramps
  • Bloating
  • Tenderness in the breasts

What symptoms may indicate a need to contact my doctor about my period?

Contact your doctor or health care provider if:

  • You have not started menstruating by the age of 16
  • Your period stops suddenly
  • You are bleeding for more days than usual
  • You are bleeding more heavily than usual
  • You have severe pain during your period
  • You have bleeding between periods that is more than just a few drops
  • You suddenly feel sick after using tampons
  • You think you might be pregnant—for example, you have had sex and your period is at least five days late
  • Your period has not returned within six weeks after stopping birth control pills and you know you are not pregnant
  • You have any questions or concerns about your period or possible pregnancy

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Women Secrets Revealed

Do you think you know women? Think again and read this

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Beautiful Jokes


When NASA first started sending up astronauts, they quickly discovered
that ballpoint pens would not work in zero gravity. To combat the
problem, NASA scientists spent a decade and $12 billion to develop a
pen that writes in zero gravity, upside down, underwater, on almost
any surface including glass and at temperatures ranging from below
freezing to 300 C.

The Russians used a pencil.


George had responded to a call from his lawyer, insisting that they
meet at once. He arrived at his lawyer's firm, and was ushered into
his office.

"Do you want the bad news first or the terrible news?" the lawyer asked.

"Well, if those are my choices, I guess I'll take the bad news first."

"Your wife found a picture worth a half-million dollars."

"That's the bad news?" George was stunned? "If you call that bad, I
can't wait to hear the terrible news."

"The terrible news is that it's of you and your secretary."


10% of the women had sex within the first hour of their first date.
20% of the men had sex in a non-traditional place.
36% of the women favour nudity.
45% of the women prefer dark men with blue eyes.
46% of the women experienced anal sex.
70% of the women prefer sex in the morning.
80% of the men have never experienced homosexual relations.
90% of the women would like to have sex in the forest.
99% of the women have never experienced sex in the office.


Statistically speaking, you have a better chance of having anal sex in
the morning with a strange woman in the forest than to have sex in the
office at the end of the day.


Do not stay late in the office. Nothing good will ever come of it!


A woman was walking along the beach when she stumbled upon a Genie's
lamp. She picked it up and rubbed it, and lo-and-behold a Genie
appeared. The amazed woman asked if she was going to receive the usual
three wishes.

The Genie said, "Nope ... due to inflation, constant downsizing, low
wages in third-world countries, and fierce global competition, I can
only grant you one wish. So ... what'll it be?"

The woman didn't hesitate. She said, "I want peace in the Middle East.
See this map? I want these countries to stop fighting with each

The Genie looked at the map and exclaimed, "Gadzooks, lady! These
countries have been at war for thousands of years. I'm good, but not
THAT good! I don't think it can be done. Make another wish."

The woman thought for a minute and said, "Well, I've never been able
to find the right man. You know, one that's considerate and fun, likes
to cook and helps with the housecleaning, is good in bed and gets
along with my family, doesn't watch sports all the time, and is
faithful. That's what I wish for ... a good mate."

The Genie let out a long sigh and said, "Let me see that fucking map!"


A police officer sees a man driving around with a pickup truck full of
penguins. He pulls the guy over and says: "You can't drive around with
penguins in this town! Take them to the zoo immediately."

The guy says OK, and drives away.

The next day, the officer sees the guy still driving around with the
truck full of penguins, and they're all wearing sun glasses. He pulls
the guy over and demands: "I thought I told you to take these penguins
to the zoo yesterday?"

The guy replies: "I did ... today I'm taking them to the beach!"


A doctor is going about his business, with a rectal thermometer tucked
behind his ear.

He goes into a staff meeting to discuss the days activities, when a
co-worker asks why he has a thermometer behind his ear?

In a wild motion he grabs for the thermometer, looks at it and
exclaims: "Damn, some asshole has my pen!"


The kindergarten class had a homework assignment to find out about
something exciting and relate it to the class the next day. When the
time came for the little kids to give their reports, the teacher was
calling on them one at a time. She was reluctant to call upon little
Johnnie, knowing that he sometimes could be a bit crude. But
eventually his turn came.

Little Johnnie walked up to the front of the class, and with a piece
of chalk, made a small white dot on the blackboard, then sat back
down. Well the teacher couldn't figure out what Johnnie had in mind
for his report on something exciting, so she asked him just what that

"It's a period" reported Johnnie.

"Well I can see that" she said. "but what is so exciting about a period."

"Damned if I know" said Johnnie, "but this morning my sister said she
missed one. Then Daddy had a heart attack, Mommy fainted and the man
next door shot himself."


Did you hear that the Post Office just recalled their latest Stamps?

They had pictures of lawyers on them and people couldn't figure out
which side to spit on.


On little Larry's first day of first grade, he raised his hand as soon
as the teacher came into the room and said, "I don't belong here, I
should be in third grade!"

The teacher looked at little Larry's records and told him to please
take his seat.

Not five minutes passed when little Larry stood up again and said, "I
don't belong here, I should be in the third grade!"

Larry did this a few more times before the principal came along and
the teacher explained Larry's problem. The principal and the first
grade teacher told little Larry that if he could answer some questions
that they could decide in which grade he belonged. Well, they soon
discovered that Larry knew all the state capitals and country capitals
that the principal could think of.

The teacher suggested they try some biology questions ... "What does a
cow have 4 of but a woman has only 2?" asked the teacher.

"Legs!" Larry immediately replied. "What does a man have in his pants
that a woman doesn't?" asked the teacher.

"Pockets!" said Larry.

The teacher looked at the principal, who said, "Maybe he should be in
third grade, I missed those last two questions!"


No, Windows is not a virus. Here's what viruses do:

1. They replicate quickly. ... Okay, Windows does that.

2. Viruses use up valuable system resources, slowing down the system
as they do so. ... Okay, Windows does that.

3. Viruses will, from time to time, trash your hard disk. ... Okay,
Windows does that too.

4. Viruses are usually carried, unknown to the user, along with
valuable programs and systems. ... Sigh.. Windows does that, too.

5. Viruses will occasionally make the user suspect their system is too
slow (see 2) and the user will buy new hardware. ... Yup, Windows does
that, too.

Until now it seems Windows is a virus but there are fundamental
differences: Viruses are well supported by their authors, are running
on most systems, their program code is fast, compact and efficient and
they tend to become more sophisticated as they mature.

So Windows is not a virus. ... It's a bug.


A female reporter was conducting an interview with a farmer about Mad
Cow Disease. "Mr. Brown, do you have any idea what might be the cause
of the disease?"

"Sure. Do you know the bulls only screw the cows once a year?"

"Umm, sir, that is a new piece of information, but what's the
relationship between this and Mad Cow?"

"And did you know we milk the cows twice a day?"

"Mr. Brown, that's interesting, but, what's the point?"

"Lady, the point is this: if I'm playing with your tits twice a day,
but only screwing you once a year, wouldn't you go mad, too?"


What's the difference between a dead skunk on the road and a dead
lawyer on the road?

There are skid marks in front of the skunk.


Did you hear about the terrorists who took a courthouse full of lawyers hostage?

They threatened to release one every hour unless their demands were met.


A woman was paying for some items in a supermarket - a pint of milk, a
packet of bacon, a small bag of rice and a few vegetables. The man at
the checkout said, "I bet you're single, aren't you?"

"Well yes, I am," the woman replied. "How did you know?"

"Because you're really ugly," replied the man.


Whats the difference between a bad golfer and a bad skydiver?

A bad golfer goes: WHACK ... "Damn"! A bad Skydiver goes: "Damn"! ... WHACK.


What do UFO's and smart blondes have in common?

You keep hearing about them, but never see any.

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How To Get A Girlfriend


How To Get A Girlfriend

Finally, a fool proof method to get the girl you want! Read on


To get a girlfriend is one of the hardest accomplishments for many men, even pickup artists. So the question remains, how do you get a girlfriend? If you've yet to meet women, you should do that first. This guide is for guys or pickup artists who are casually involved with a woman and want them as their girlfriend. Because hey, once you meet a cool woman, you should learn how to keep her.

Step 1: How To Get A Girlfriend

First, you must understand that what works with pickup, does not necessarily work when you want a girlfriend. You should understand that on the whole, you need to be less "jerky" and more understanding in a few areas. I'm not advocating turning into a wuss and doing everything your girlfriend wants, far from it. I'm saying, if you want a girlfriend, you should start doing the things that a girlfriend expects. Share more feelings with her, open up with her on a less superficial level, and spend more time pleasing her into the bedroom than just yourself. A quote from Neil Strauss, "If you want a woman to be your girlfriend, then make sure she has a constant supply of orgasms. If you're missing that, then your girlfriend will likely leave soon."

Step 2: How To Get A Girlfriend

Second, you should definitely start involving her with other parts of your life. If you start seeing a woman three or more times a week you should realize that she might expect more than just a casual hookup. This is in your court, so don't make the mistake of saying "shes getting real clingy" when you've clearly been giving her those signals yourself. When you start to invite her to activities with your family, friends or work, you should realize that you are sending this woman signals that you want her to be your girlfriend.

Step 3: How To Get A Girlfriend

Third, you should now start putting off the vibe that she's more important to you than before. If you want a woman to be your girlfriend, start treating her the way a woman should be treated in public. There's no harm in being honest, and this is actually a super alpha male trait. By being honest with her, by saying something like, "I think you're great. If I play my cards right, you'll trick me into having you as my girlfriend." (With a BIG smile) Gauge the interactions, you can usually feel when a commitment of some sort is about to hit the fan.

Lastly, be mellow about the whole situation. Never act clingy – this is a unattractive quality that comes from scarcity and jealously. Let her bring up the girlfriend situation by herself. Trust me, if you're providing value to her life, she'll want to be your girlfriend. Give this at least a few months of dating, and never be predictable during that time. Follow the basic rules of pickup, until you're ready for the commitment of having her as your girlfriend. Then when you're ready come back and follow these rules to get a girlfriend.


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Vagina Owner's Manual

Vagina Owner's Manual
by H.Bangambiki


The Vulva is the external sexual organ of women. There are many
questions about the vulva on, and this FAQ will begin to
attempt to answer some of these.


The external female genitals are collectively referred to as The
Vulva. All of the words below are part of the vulva.

Mons Veneris

The mons veneris, Latin for "hill of Venus" (Roman Goddess of
love) is the pad of fatty tissue that covers the pubic bone below the
abdomen but above the labia. The mons is sexually sensitive in some
women and protects the pubic bone from the impact of sexual

Labia Majora

The labia majora are the outer lips of the vulva, pads of fatty
tissue that wrap around the vulva from the mons to the perineum. These
labia are usually covered with pubic hair, and contain numerous sweat
and oil glands, and it has been suggested that the scent from these
are sexually arousing.

Labia Minora

The labia minora are the inner lips of the vulva, thin stretches
of tissue within the labia majora that fold and protect the vagina,
urethra, and clitoris. The appearance of labia minora can vary widely,
from tiny lips that hide between the labia majora to large lips that
protrude. The most common metaphor for the labia minora is that of a
flower. Both the inner and outer labia are quite sensitive to touch
and pressure.


The clitoris, is the small white oval between the top of the labia
minora and the clitoral hood, is a small body of spongy tissue that is
highly sexually sensitive. Only the tip or glans of the clitoris shows
extrernally, but the organ itself is elongated and branched into two
forks, the crura, which extend downward along the rim of the vaginal
opening toward the perineum. Thus the clitoris is much larger than
most peole think it is -- about 4" long, on avergae. The clitoral
glans or external tip of the cltoris is protected by the prepuce, or
clitoral hood, a covering of tissue similar to the foreskin of the
male penis. During sexual excitement, the clitoris may extend and the
hood retract to make the clitoral glans more accessible. On some women
the clitoral glans is very small; other women may have large clitori
that the hood does not completely cover.


The opening to the urethra is just below the clitoris. It is not
related to sex or reproduction, but is instead the passage for urine.
The urethra is connected to the bladder. Because the urethra is so
close to the anus, women should always wipe themselves from front to
back to avoid infecting the vagina and urethra with bacteria.


(A) (B) (C) (D) (E)

The above illustrations show the area between the labia minora. From
top to bottom can be clearly seen the clitoris, urethral opening, and
vaginal opening. A, B, and C show vaginal openings with a normal
hymen, a membrane that partially covers the opening. The hymen is the
traditional "symbol" of virginity, although being a very thin
membrane, it can be torn by vigorous exercise or the insertion of a
tampon. Illustration D shows an imperforate hymen that completely
closes the vagina; this rare condition requires surgical intervention
to provide for a normal flow of blood once menstruation begins.
Illustration E is of a vagina in a post-partum woman (one who has
given birth).


The perineum is the short stretch of skin starting at the bottom
of the vulva and extending to the anus. The perineum in women often
tears during birth to accomodate passage of the child, and this is
apparently natural. Some physicians may cut the perineum preemptively
on the grounds that the "tearing" may be more harmful than a precise
scalpel, but statistics show that such cutting in fact may increase
the potential for infection.



The vagina extends from the vaginal opening to the cervix, the
opening to the uterus. The vagina serves as the receptacle for the
penis during sexual intercourse, and as the birth canal through which
the baby passes during labor. The average vaginal canal is three
inches long, possibly four in women who have given birth. This may
seem short in relation to the penis, but during sexual arousal the
cervix will lift upwards and the fornix (see illustration) may extend
upwards into the body as long as necessary to receive the penis. After
intercourse, the contraction of the vagina will allow the cervix to
rest inside the fornix, which in its relaxed state is a bowl-shaped
fitting perfect for the pooling of semen.
At either side of the vaginal opening are the Bartholin's glands,
which produce small amounts of lubricating fluid, apparently to keep
the inner labia moist during periods of sexual excitement. Further
within are the hymen glands, which secrete lubricant for the length of
the vaginal canal.


The word is in quotes because there is still some debate as to the
existance or purpose of the G- spot. In the illustration above, what
is indicated as the g-spot in fact points to a region known as the
Skenes glands, the purpose of which are unknown. Despite the
controversy, one fact remains-- there are many women who claim that
pressure on this region of the vagina is extremely pleasurable.
Usually, two fingers are used, and because the spot is deep within the
tissue, some pressure may be needed. Also, because the Skenes glands
are alongside the bladder, some women may found that the increased
pressure makes them feel as if they need to urinate.


The cervix is the opening to the uterus. It varies in diameter
from 1 to 3 millimeters, depending upon the time in the menstrual
cycle the measurement is taken. The cervix is sometimes plugged with
cervical mucous to protect the cervix from infection; during
ovulation, this mucous becomes a thin fluid to permit the passage of


The uterus, or womb, is the main female internal reproductive
organ. The inner lining of the uterus is called the endometrium, which
grows and changes during the menstrual cycle to prepare to receive a
fertilized egg, and sheds a layer at the end of every menstrual cycle
if fertilization does not happen. The utereus is lined with powerful
muscles to push the child out during labor.


The ovaries perform two functions:

-the production of estrogen and progesterone, the female sex hormones,

-and the production of mature ova, or eggs.

At birth, the ovaries contain nearly 400,000 ova, and those are all
she will ever have. However, that is far more than she will need,
since during an average lifespan she will go through about 500
menstrual cycles. After maturing, the single egg travels down the
fallopian tube, a journey of three or four days-- this is the period
during which a woman is fertile and pregnancy may occur. Eggs that are
not fertilized are expelled during menstruation.
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How to Give Your Woman A Wild Orgasm

How to Give Your Woman A Wild Orgasm
by H. Bangambiki

Being a woman, I thought I knew everything there was to know about
female sexuality.But I had always heard of this infamous female
ejaculation, that was supposedly different than just having an orgasm.
I heard stories from my male friends about women they had been with
that had ejaculated. And when I would ask them to describe it, I would
get similar responses: "It squirts out. It's very wet. It's liquid.
It's clear in color. It almost looks cloudy. It's very warm." I still
wasn't convinced, I mean it sounded like my friends got peed on. So I
was on a quest. What is this liquid and if it is female ejaculate,
where does it come from and can I do it too? So I did some research
and this is what I found.

Female ejaculation is an orgasm that not every woman is aware of and
that, as a result, may bring about some very intense emotions. Those
that can do it don't know what to do with it or feel ashamed of it.
Some of the women that I spoke to that could do it didn't want to
because once they did, the men became upset and felt that they were
urinated on. And as I learned, this is just not true. In fact, if you
do get involved with a woman that can, she is a special woman.

It is a very personal thing though. The way they do it and the amount
of fluid they produce can be different. The amount can range from just
a few drops to spewing like a man to, more severe, a shower of it.

So where does it come from? There are several theories, but the one
thing that seems to remain consistent is that female ejaculation is
worked up in the spongy area around the female urethra, better known
as the G-spot. It's located at the upper part of the vagina, just
behind the entrance at the back of the pubic bone. It does actually
feel like a little sponge. When stimulated over a long period of time,
this sponge fills up with fluid. Some women also told me that it kind
of feels like they're urinating, although they know it's not coming
from the same place. It does originate from the same general area,
which is why they feel that way. But this is where the confusion comes

Women's urethra, like men's, supposedly closes up during sexual
activity. There have been many studies. All are basically left with
the a question mark and the reader draws their own conclusion. So
instead of boring you with every little detail, I'll give you the
general wrap up of all the experiments. So the similar chemicals that
have been found in all experiments are a high level of glucose and an
enzyme, prostatic acid phosphatase, which is characteristic of the
prostatic component of semen (whatever that means) and two substances
commonly found in urine, urea and creatinine, which were found at
lower levels than in the subject's urine. (So, okay, there is some
urine substance in female ejaculate, from what they're saying.)

Some have also come to the simple solution that in some women it is
very similar to urine and in others it is similar to the fluid
produced by the prostate in men. And still more think it may come from
a gland located at the opening of the urethra in the vulva.

So, wow! I believe from all the research that I've done, is that it
probably is a little bit of both: prostate type fluid and urine. But
hey, sex is supposed to be fun and exciting. If your woman gets so
damn excited that she pees on herself, you should take it as quite the

We will discuss it in a separate article, but I have also learned that
g-spot stimulation is not the only way to make it happen. A lot of
first timers will ejaculate from that type of stimulation, but it is
not necessary in those women that can.

There are some useful tips, in dealing with a female ejaculator. If
you are both into bondage, by all means tie her down. The movements
will be extremely strong, unexpected, uncontrolled and sometimes can
be spasmodic. Also, spread the bed with lots and lots of towels,
because you do not know how much fluid may come out, but there's a
fair chance it will easily fill up two or three layers of towel. And
please be safe about it. The fluid may spray around like a fountain.
Do not worry. If the fluid does contain the HIV virus, it is killed
within seconds after it has left the body and exposed to a temperature
lower than the average body temperature. But do avoid accidentally
getting it on your lips and in your eyes, just to be safe.

What is a female orgasm?

I'm writing this explanation in the assumption that you - the reader -
are male. But what follows will be of interest to a lot of female
readers too. What happens in a woman's body during a climax is very
like what happens in your (male) body when you ejaculate. In other
words, there's a feeling of increasing excitement, building up to a
point where everything 'blows' in a great blast of ecstasy. This
'orgasmic moment' is characterised by surges of contractions in the
sex organs, occurring almost every 0.8 seconds.

Men are well aware that these throbs of pleasure are accompanied by
the pumping out of spurts of seminal fluid. Obviously this doesn't
happen in women. A few females do produce some fluid at orgasm, but
the impression given in so many erotic stories that most women
'ejaculate' is not correct. Only a minority of females do this.

Multiple orgasms

The other big difference between male and female orgasm is this: after
the first climax, many women can 'come' again, often within a minute
or two. This ability is extremely rare in males. Relatively few young
women can achieve multiple orgasm, because it's an ability that
usually has to be learned. But with the help of a skilled lover, most
women can eventually achieve the capacity for multiple orgasms - if
they so desire.

Bringing the female to a climax

For men perhaps the most important thing to realise about female
climaxes is that with females, it's not a mechanical thing - as it
generally is with men. You see, most males will ejaculate quite
quickly if they have their penises rubbed. This applies even if the
circumstances aren't very romantic - or even if they don't
particularly like the person who's doing the rubbing! Women are not
like this! Female orgasm isn't a push-button response. The conditions
have to be right. Although females vary, in general, they need the
following if they're going to reach a climax:

-a romantic atmosphere for your female mate

-pleasant, comfortable surroundings for your female mate

-a partner who they really like

-a feeling of being wanted and appreciated for your female partner

-a good flow of natural lubrication - so that the delicate female
parts don't get sore

-a skilled partner who knows how to stimulate the clitoris.

Unless you can provide the above, you are not going to have great
success in giving your partner orgasms. Please bear in mind that -
contrary to what many men think - sexual intercourse by itself is not
likely to produce an orgasm. This is because intercourse alone is not
very good at stimulating the woman's clitoris. Nearly all females need
additional stimulation of the clitoris by fingers or mouth.

What to do

In summary, here's what to do if you want to bring your partner to
orgasm regularly:

-don't be in a rush.

-don't be too demanding - it's not an Olympic event.

-talk to your partner, and ask her what she wants you to do to her.

-always create a romantic atmosphere.

-make sure that everything is comfortable and nice for her.

-give her lots of kisses and cuddles before you even think about
making any approach to her sexual area.

-when you do start to stroke, rub or kiss her genitals, don't rush
into 'attacking' her clitoris. Take things gently, and see what she

-use her own natural lubrication to moisten her clitoris. (If she is
over 40, it may be a good idea to use some additional lubrication from
a chemist or a sex shop).

-remember that stimulation of the clitoris is the key to female orgasm.

A man's erection is likely to alternate between harder and softer
during sexual intercourse. If he's wearing a condom, it is very likely
that the condom will slip off from time to time if this happens. Men
can usually feel when that is happening, and, if they are responsible,
they will withdraw and put another condom on when they get hard enough
again. That's why it's a good idea to have a good supply of condoms
around when partners decide to have sexual intercourse.

If a condom slips off during sex, it is possible for ejaculate to
spill out. If the condom with ejaculate in it slips off inside a
woman's vagina, it is possible she can become pregnant or infected
with a sexually transmitted infection. A woman who is concerned about
unintended pregnancy after a condom breaks or slips off may want to
consider using emergency contraception pills (ECPs) to reduce her risk
of pregnancy.

by H. Bangambiki
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Vagina Dentada, The Myth Of The Toothed Vagina

Vagina Dentada
by H.Bangambiki

"Toothed vagina," the classic symbol of men's fear of sex, expressing
the unconscious belief that a woman may eat or castrate her partner
during intercourse. Freud said, "Probably no male human being is
spared the terrifying shock of threatened castration at the sight of
female genitals." But he had the reason wrong. The real reason for
this "terrifying shock" is a mouth-symbolism, now recognized
universally in myth and fantasy: "It is well-known in psychiatry that
both males and females fantasize as a mouth the female's entranceway
to the vagina."
The more patriarchal the society, the more fear seems to be aroused by
the fantasy. Men of Malekula, having overthrown their matriarchate,
were haunted by a yonic spirit called "that which draws us to It so
that It may devour us." The Yanomamo said one of the first beings on
earth was a woman whose vagina became a toothed mouth and bit off her
consort's penis. Chinese patriarchs said women's genitals were not
only gateways to immortality but also "executioners of men." Moslem
aphorisms said: "Three things are insatiable: the desert, the grave,
and a woman's vulva." Polynesians said the savior-god Maui tried to
find eternal life by crawling into the mouth (or vagina) of his mother
Hina, in effect trying to return to the womb of the Creatress; but she
bit him in two and killed him.

Stories of the devouring Mother are ubiquitous in myths, representing
the death-fear which the male psyche often transformed into a
sex-fear. Ancient writings describe the male sexual function not as
"taking" or "posessing" the female, but rather "being taken" or
"putting forth." Ejaculation was viewed as a loss of a man's vital
force, which was "eaten" by a woman. The Greek sema ir "semen: meant
both "seed" and "food." Sexual "consummation" was the same as
"consuming" (the male). Many savages still have the same imagery. The
Yanomamo word for pregnant also means satiated or full-fed; and "to
eat" is the same as "to copulate."

Distinction between mouths and female genitals was blurred by the
Greek idea of the laminae -- lustful she-demons, born of the Libyan
snake-goddess Lamia. Their name meant either "lecherous vaginas" or
"gluttonous gullets." Lamia was a Greek name for the divine female
serpent called Kundalini in India, Uraeus or Per-Uatchet in Egypt, and
Lamashtu in Babylon. Her Babylonian consort was Pazuzu, he of the
serpent penis. Lamia's legend, with its notion that males are born to
be eaten, led to Pliny's report on the sexual lives of snakes which
was widely believed throughout Europe even up to the 20th century: a
male snake fertilizes the female snake by putting his head into her
mouth and allowing himself to be eaten.

Sioux Indians told a tale similar to that of the Lamia. A beautiful
seductive woman accepted the love of a young warrior and united with
him inside a cloud. When the cloud lifted, the woman stood alone. The
man was a heap of bones being gnawed by snakes at her feet.

Mouth and vulva were equated in many Egyptian myths. Ma-Nu, the
western gate whereby the sun god daily re-entered his Mother, was
sometimes a "cleft" (yoni) and sometimes a "mouth." Priestesses of
Bast, representing the Goddess, drew up their skirts to display their
genitals during religious processions. To the Greeks, such a display
was frightening. Bellerophon fled in terror from Lycian women
advancing on him with genitals exposed, and even the sea god Poseidon
retreated, for fear they might swallow him.

According to Philostratus, magical women "by arousing sexual desire
seek to devour whom they wish." To the patriarchal Persians and
Moslems this seemed a distinct possibility. Viewing women's mouths as
either obscene, dangerous, or overly seductive, they insisted on
veiling them. Yet men's mouths, which look no different, were not
viewed as threatening.

"Mouth" comes from the same root as "mother" -- Anglo-Saxon muth, also
related to the Egyptian Goddess Mut. Vulvas have labiae, "lips," and
many men have believed that behind the lips lie teeth. Christian
authorities of the Middle Ages taught that certain witches, with the
help of the moon and magic spells, could grow fangs in their vaginas.
They likened women's genitals to the "yawning" mouth of hell, though
this was hardly original; the underworld gate had always been the yoni
of Mother Hel. It has always "yawned" -- from Middle English yonen,
another derivative of "yoni." A German vulgarity meaning "cunt," Fotze
in parts of Bavaria meant simply "mouth."

To Christian ascetics, Hell-mouth and the vagina drew upon the same
ancient symbolism. Both were equated with the womb-symbol of the whale
that swallowed Jonah; according to this "prophecy" the Hell-mouth
swallowed Christ (as Hina swallowed her son Maui) and kept him for
three days. Visionary trips to hell often read like "a description of
the experience of being born, but in reverse, as if the child was
being drawn into the womb and destroyed there, instead of being formed
and given life." St. Teresa of Avila said her vision of a visit to
hell was "an oppression, a suffocation, and an affliction so
agonizing, and accompanied by such a hopeless and distressing misery
that no words I could find would adequately describe it. To say that
it was as if my soul were being continuously torn from my body is as

The archetypal image of "devouring" female genitals seems undeniably
alive even in the modern world. "Males in our culture are so afraid of
direct contact with female genitalia, and are even afraid of referring
to these genitalia themselves; they largely displace their feelings to
the accessory sex organs -- the hips, legs, breasts, buttocks, etc. --
and they give these accessory sex organs an exaggerated interest and
desirability." Even here, the male scholar inexplicably "displaces"
the words sex organ onto structures that have nothing to do with
sexual functioning.

Looking into, touching, entering the female orifice seems fraught with
hidden fears, signified by the confusion of sex with death in
overwhelming numbers of male minds and myths. Psychiatrists say sex is
perceived by the male unconscious as dying: "Every orgasm is a little
death: the death of the 'little man,' the penis." Here indeed is the
root of ascetic religions that equated the denial of death with the
denial of sex.

Moslems attributed all kinds of dread powers to a vulva. It could
"bite off" a man's eye-beam, resulting in blindness for any man who
looked into its cavity. A sultan of Damascus was said to have lost his
sight in this manner. Christian legend claimed he went to Sardinia to
be cured of his blindness by a miraculous idol of the Virgin Mary --
who, being eternally virgin, had her door-mouth permanently closed by
a veil-hymen.

Apparently Freud was wrong in assuming that men's fear of female
genitals was based on the idea that the female had been castrated. The
fear was much less empathetic, and more personal: a fear of being
devoured, of experiencing the birth trauma in reverse. A Catholic
scholar's curious description of the Hell-mouh as a womb inadvertently
reveals this idea: "When we think of man entering hell we think of him
as establishing contact with the most intrinsic, unified, ultimate and
deepest level of the reality of the world."

by H.Bangambiki

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